How to write your own wedding vows
Everything you have done up until this point has been leading to the big finale of your wedding day. Whether you consider yourself a romantic, traditional or alternative, writing your wedding vows is not just something that you will say to each other but also in front of all your family and friends.
Here are a few tips on how to write your awesome wedding vows.
1. Decide on whether you are going to write them together or secretly.
Like finding out the sex of your new unborn child, this is something that you are both going to have to agree upon. It really comes down to whether you are looking to surprise your partner or whether you are looking for a little consistency in length or structure.
2. Agree on a format and tone for your vows.
a. Your wedding vows are one of those things that there is no winner on. Agreeing on a structure will make it easier for both of you.
b. [Vow-starter] The first time I saw you, I…
c. [Promise] I promise to be…
d. [Promise] I promise we’ll…
e. [Promise] I promise to love you…
f. [Vow-starter] You give me…
g. [Vow-starter] Together, we’ll spend our lives…
Consider giving yourself a word count, say 200 words max. That way, you know you’ll both have vows similar in length.
Whatever the format, if you both do the same, then you’ll be fine.
3. Don’t leave it to the last minute.
Planning a wedding is a big deal and there is often so much to do and plan, that writing your wedding vows can be one of those to do things that keeps getting pushed to the bottom of the list. Plan to write your vows at least 3 months before the wedding, to make sure it isn’t something that you rush at the last minute.
4. Write it out and practice it.
On the day emotions are likely to be running high, and you want to make sure your partner really feels your vows coming from the heart. Practicing your vows a few times before your wedding, will help calm a few of the
wedding day jitters.
5. Have a copy and back-up copy on the big day.
No matter how organised you think you are on the day, things can sometimes go astray. Having it written out, reduces the pressure to remember it. A back up copy given to your chief bridesmaid and best man can be a great way to make sure your wedding vows go off without a hitch.